One thing I have not seen a lot of is heartbreak. God protected me until I was ready. He knew I had so much love and heartache from humanity that the eros kind of heartbreak would have to wait. And although I still have the storge love and pain, I can move to the next part of my heart journey. Which by proxy increases my philia love for friends and family. More on that in a sec.
As I navigated around, above, and below eros love, God gave me the gift of discernment (and a quick trigger finger). I can NEXT a flavor before he says "Hey baby" (in the Joey voice). And believe me, I have many times. But now that I am older and hopefully wiser, I am opening myself up to more experiences and opportunities.
Although I haven't had the gallon of ice cream, burn his stuff kind of heartbreak, I have been able to relate more to where those emotions originate. A lot of it is disappointment. Disappointments are the dents and cracks before the big shatter. One or two can last a long time, but too many at once and the shatter is close behind. As I mentioned earlier, choosing to delve deeper into my own heart has helped me with my philia love to friends. I'm more empathetic now. Most have chosen to take chance after chance with love, but are better for it. Loving and being loved along the way. Is it worth it? I don't know. But I guess that's why I am venturing farther along the path. So now I understand even more why my friend doesn't like to be friends with any of her exes. Agree or not agree with the philosophy I get it. I understand that decision not to be reminded of the hurt. I understand the choice to avoid reliving the joy you can no longer experience in that particular way with that particular person. SN: Forgiveness and friendship are two different things. You have to forgive so you don't harbor bitterness in your heart. If it's already breaking don't let bitterness be the only piece left. That should be the first piece to go. But I digress. . .
Dating is a hot mess. There are definitely different flavor categories to navigate. Which route is less rocky? We've got OCD Blvd, Immature Park, Ultra Busy Hwy, Food Nazi Court, Militant Speedway, and many others. Let's get on Ultra Busy Hwy and see how that flows.
What have you learned from heartbreak?
