It's high time, I post again. Don't you think? No? Oh well, here it is anyway.
On a few of my first dates men have asked me to tell them what I want to achieve in my life. My prose is not eloquently articulating the tone of college-speak this questions sounds like live. But, I have a few thoughts regarding this question.
I'm familiar with "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" by Steven Harvey. If you are going to bite his advice, get it right. Per Mr. Harvey, women (I repeat WOMEN) should ask men their short- and long-term goals. This makes far more sense to me as a question, even if it's a man asking a woman. Equal opportunities, blah blah blah. But I digress.
When I'm asked this question, it comes across as though life hasn't happened, and I'm still waiting to get a career or achieve something. You know, it's like "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Well, although I deny it on a regular basis, I have grown up. I'm a loving daughter, sister, aunt, friend, and attorney. It's who I AM, not who I wish to be. I have already achieved many things I'd hoped to when I was younger. This leads me to my second point.
I realize with these men, many have not achieved things they hoped as a kid, or they didn't start setting goals until they were an adult. I am blessed. I was a goal setter almost from birth. Not only that, I set goals and I achieved them. This seemed normal to me when I grew up, and did not seem to be so atypical. What I am realizing more and more, is that this is not how everyone else has operated. Even as an adult, if there is something I want to achieve, I develop a plan, and do it. No, I have not done everything there is to do. I still have short- and long-term goals. Which is another reason why, THAT is a better question. My answer isn't much different, but it will include more short-term ideas and things I'm working toward.
When I'm asked about what I wish to achieve, I politely say, I wish to continue the way I am. And hopefully grow and be a stronger Christian and person doing God's will. I don't know if this is the answer the man expects. But it is the truth. Maybe I should pull out my bucket list. . .err create a bucket list first, then pull out said bucket list and hand it over.
What are your thoughts?
