Sometimes I'm mistaken for being 20-something, or I just play along with being 20-something. It's fun. But in reality, I'm a happy 36 year old. There's wisdom with age, and so much more I want to learn. Despite my age, I still require some level of thought when a man approaches me. I recognize that now online dating is a great means for people to connect. I've had some nice dates using online dating sites. Those men knew how to reach out to me in a respectful way and start a conversation. I like that. I think there should be some effort in the approach. By effort, I mean, proper sentence structure and maybe a question about who I am to help the conversation.
It's hard out here for us ladies. What's going on? It's so bad my friends are creating boyfriends for me. Lol.
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Online dating is kind of sad. It wasn't always this way. I won't even address the level of negative prejudice apparent through profile pages. I just want to highlight the lack of effort when contacting a woman online. Without disclosing names or pictures, I will give you a few of the intro messages I've received from men within the last month. These are tame compared to some I've received in the past. (i.e. Hi sexy lips. . .) This is the very first piece of communication I have from these men. Men who have access to my profile and the information provided there.
I will attempt to keep the capitalization, grammar, and punctuation (or lack thereof) the same as it was written to me. A typo here or there is okay, but bad grammar as a thing, is NOT okay. The age of the author is in parenthesis. No doubt there are great men available. I know some really great men between the ages of 27 - 43. But these online sites can't seem to find any for me. LOL. So in the meantime, I'll just chuckle at America's education system. Someone taught these men. And someone or multiple someones allow them to make this type of first impression, or else they'd try a different approach. Ladies, I implore you, don't accept mediocrity or just plain laziness.
This, my friends, is not how you should approach me for a date, in person or in text. . .
1. (35) Good morning sweetheart
2. (32) Hey gorgeous
3. (44) Hi my name is ___ you look beautiful nice smile
4. (33) How u doing dis morning I hope good looking for a special lady I can take out to dinner. Have good conversation Long walks downtown I am independent man single man no kids I wnt get married
5. (44) Hiello its nice to see good people really enjoyed there selves I'm trying to do the friendly people person site alright, so you take care an finish up your walk out!
6. (37) Good morning beautiful women I'm j____ afro Puerto Rico man looking for a real woman like u boo I work I don't have kids I live in Country Club Hills Illinois boo
2nd message - You are xo beautiful
3rd message - I wish I was your man
7. (35) Hello beautiful
8. (42) Hey gorgeous your looking for me! :)
9. (33) Heyy there
10. (34) Good morning, love what type of attorney are u
There you have it. The 2016 approach to dating. No thank you!
I will attempt to keep the capitalization, grammar, and punctuation (or lack thereof) the same as it was written to me. A typo here or there is okay, but bad grammar as a thing, is NOT okay. The age of the author is in parenthesis. No doubt there are great men available. I know some really great men between the ages of 27 - 43. But these online sites can't seem to find any for me. LOL. So in the meantime, I'll just chuckle at America's education system. Someone taught these men. And someone or multiple someones allow them to make this type of first impression, or else they'd try a different approach. Ladies, I implore you, don't accept mediocrity or just plain laziness.
This, my friends, is not how you should approach me for a date, in person or in text. . .
1. (35) Good morning sweetheart
2. (32) Hey gorgeous
3. (44) Hi my name is ___ you look beautiful nice smile
4. (33) How u doing dis morning I hope good looking for a special lady I can take out to dinner. Have good conversation Long walks downtown I am independent man single man no kids I wnt get married
5. (44) Hiello its nice to see good people really enjoyed there selves I'm trying to do the friendly people person site alright, so you take care an finish up your walk out!
6. (37) Good morning beautiful women I'm j____ afro Puerto Rico man looking for a real woman like u boo I work I don't have kids I live in Country Club Hills Illinois boo
2nd message - You are xo beautiful
3rd message - I wish I was your man
7. (35) Hello beautiful
8. (42) Hey gorgeous your looking for me! :)
9. (33) Heyy there
10. (34) Good morning, love what type of attorney are u
There you have it. The 2016 approach to dating. No thank you!
